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Series – Perfect Relationship: 24 Tools for Building BRIDGES to Harmony and Taking Down WALLS of Conflict in our Relationships.
Episode 10 – The Power of Significance – Two True stories – Amina’s dying Boys and Pastor James’s Ruthless Stepfather and Resentful Grandmother
Expanded Title – Episode 10 – The Power of Significance – True story 1 – Amina’s inner vow and judgement concerning her brother prevented her from having male children until delivered + True story 2 – Pastor James’s judgement against step father Andrew and grandmother Hannah and key lessons for You.
Hello Friends, You are welcome to today’s series on “Perfect relationship: 24 Tools for Building BRIDGES to Harmony and Taking Down WALLS of Conflict in our Relationships”.
In Episode 10, we explore – The Power of Significance – Two True stories – Amina’s dying Boys and Pastor James’s Ruthless Stepfather and Resentful Grandmother
In expanded title, Episode 10, “The Power of Significance – True story 1 – Amina’s inner vow and judgement concerning her brother prevented her from having male children until delivered + True story 2 – Pastor James’s judgement against step father Andrew and grandmother Hannah and key lessons for You. So, sit tight and pay attention to key learnings for your life application where necessary.
Last week Friday, we looked at, “Episode 9 – Breaking the Power of Pain – true story of forgiveness to a murderer on death row by Aba Gayle + 7 outstanding lessons from the Story of Jesus’s birth for life application this Christmas”.
You can access that content via this link –https://www.otakada.org/7-outstanding-lessons-from-the-story-of-jesus-birth-life-application-this-christmas/
True story 1 – Amina’s inner vow and judgement concerning her brother prevented her from having male children until delivered.
In the gospel of Matthew, Jesus said in
Matthew 16:19 Amplified Bible, Classic Edition (AMPC)
19 I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven; and whatever you bind (declare to be improper and unlawful) on earth [a]must be what is already bound in heaven; and whatever you loose (declare lawful) on earth [b]must be what is already loosed in heaven.
Note dear brothers and sisters that the above saying of Jesus does not say whatever positive or negative you bind on earth.
It says, whatever you bind. That bind could be spoken or unspoken, just meditate over a wrong thing or a positive thing over time and see what happens.
We see this same principle of Hanna’s prayer in the temple. Her lips were moving but no word was heard . It all depends from what source what she was saying emanated from – from the depths of her spirit or just from some mental, soulish realm. Read Hanna’s Story in
1 Samuel 1:13-16
New International Version
13 Hannah was praying in her heart, and her lips were moving but her voice was not heard. Eli thought she was drunk 14 and said to her, “How long are you going to stay drunk? Put away your wine.”
15 “Not so, my lord,” Hannah replied, “I am a woman who is deeply troubled. I have not been drinking wine or beer; I was pouring out my soul to the Lord. 16 Do not take your servant for a wicked woman; I have been praying here out of my great anguish and grief.”
I don’t know what is troubling you right now. I don’t know what is keeping you awake all night.
Is it that unpaid debt or that expected child through pregnancy that refuses to come through despite visions and dreams and countless prayers and fasting?
Is it hat child of yours that had great promise for a great future and now tied up in addiction or that business that is at the verge of bankruptcy?
Is it that relationship that is crumbling and breaking apart despite all your attempt to make it work?
Is it that illness or disease that doctors are managing and have no real diagnosis and have given up on you?
Is it that Tall, dark and handsome young man or slim, pretty lady that you have waited for all these years and has not showed up and you have now vowed that if 2022 expires and he or she does not show up, you will take matters into your hand?
I say to you today to “RELAX” dear child of God. I want you to, If possible, change the source from where you are speaking to God about these matters and then to worship, to give praise to bring thanks even in the non fulfillment of your desires and you will see the salvation of the Lord in the land of the living.
Get to the point where you can say wholehearted, “Even if this does not come to pass, I stand with You, Lord God to day and always! I love You and I will serve you wholehearted all the days of my life.”
Everyone can praise and worship from the depths of their spirit when things are all right but just the 10% of the people are those who can worship despite all odds. Be in the 10%. Don’t join the crowd!
Its not how loud we scream when we pray or how silent that matters. We should make sure it is coming from the depths of our spirit, the real us.
We should be authentic with God in our prayers. We should meditate on the matter and over time, and we will see the invisible begin to manifest in the natural realm. As in Hanna’s case, so shall it be in yours in Jesus name, amen.
Let’s start Amina’s Story.
Inner vows are determinations we make as children, or very young age. Determinations that become “computer programs” within our character. They energize our brains to reproduce repeatedly whatever the vows calls for. These vows are called “inner” because we make them as children and then forget them. They actually have more power by virtue of their hiddenness. ( Vows made later in life are not very effective, as anyone can attest who made New Year’s resolutions only to see them soon wither and die.)
Amina want to give her husband a son and could not. Amina could get pregnant easily and had carried girls to full-term. But each time she got pregnant with a boy, she miscarried. Amina’s gynecologist said there was nothing wrong with her. She ought to be able to carry a boy full-term; the problem had to be psychological.
The first question to Amina was this: “ What was life like with your father? Was he kind to you? Did he give you affection?” it turned out her father had been unusually kind and affectionate.
Amina’s brother, on the other hand, had bullied and picked on her continually. He told lies about her to their parents and her friends and teased her viciously.
Then Amina recalled walking beside a stream sometime between the ages ten and twelve, picking up rocks, hurling them into the stream and exclaiming, “I’ll never carry a boy child! I’ll never have a boy baby!”
That was an inner vow. It worked like a program in her inner computer – never mind that her outer self now wanted to bear a son. About the third or fourth month, that inner vow would kick into action, and her body would abort the boy child.
Amina repented of her judgment against her brother, and she was led to forgive, and a pronouncement in Jesus’s name that she was forgiven for her own resentment. Then authority in Jesus name was taken to break the inner vow.
A word was spoken directly in prayer to Amina’s body and loosed it from that wrong order to abort male children, based on Matthew 16:19. Subsequently Amina carried easily and gave birth to a baby boy.
What is your story? Let’s hear it – Send an email or a video or voice recording. It could be your turning point of unexplainable circumstances. Jesus came that we might have life, abundant life.. Matthew 10:10 He said, “my yoke is easy and my burden is light..” Matthew 11:28-30.
Jesus dealt with all issues that were brought to Him. He never turned anyone away.. even the Syrophoenician woman got attended to concerning her child because she never gave up despite rejection statement from Jesus. You are child of the living God..you are not an outcast dear child of the living God!
Let’s look at the second story of Pastor Jame’s judgement against stepfather Andrew and grandmother Hannah and key lessons for You.
A preamble to significance and judgement as we have discussed and discovered in last series.
It is not the intensity of the pain, but the significance you attach that determines the effect.
Jesus warned us that others would judge us with the same standards we use to judge them. The difference, however,
is that they will give back a lot more than we gave.
Then He went on to say, “With what measure ye mete, it shall be mea-
sured to you again” (Matthew 7:2).
The measure, or effect, that comes back to us through any event is based on two factors.
The first is the significance we attach to the event. The second is our motive when we do these same things. If we measure something by giving it value, size, and significance, then that measurement determines its effect on us.
The effect of another person’s behavior has little to do with his or her intent. But that effect has everything to do with our
judgment, or how we measure it. People may take actions with no ill intention, yet they can have devastating effects. There can even be actions that people intend for good, but that can create massive amounts of pain. When such events happen, we think, They are doing this to me. The truth is, regardless of people’s intentions, we are doing it to ourselves.
Pastor James said and I quote.
I grew up in a rough and violent situation. I saw violence at a young age as my father physically abused my mother.
At some point very early in my life, my father Andrew threatened to burn the house down with my family in it. I was around eleven years old the first time I was ever knocked out. My stepfather Andrew was beating my mother, and I stepped in to protect her. When I was eighteen years old, after being away from home for five years, I went back to spend a couple of nights and visit with my family. While I was there, my stepfather Andrew attempted to kill me in my sleep.
Sometimes, when people hear parts of my testimony, they say, “I can’t imagine how you can be even close to normal.”
They think that those circumstances should have had a greater abiding effect on my life. Although I do have emotional issues that I have not yet fully realized, the events I have described have no
real significance in: my life today.
What I experienced was overt rejection, which is possibly the simplest rejection to deal with; it is open and straightforward.There are few hidden agendas and little emotional manipulation in this type of rejection.
The situation with my stepfather Andrew was simple. He hated me and wanted to drive me out of the house. I hated him, and I did not want to stay in the house with him. That is easy to understand. Before I received Jesus as my Savior, I was very bitter and filled with hate for my stepfather Andrew. I thought of murdering him.
After I was saved, I released him from my judgment and freed myself from the pain. Although his actions were the cause of much of the pain in my life, my judgment was the source of abiding torment.
Pastor James continues..
People who come to me for counseling have experienced events that were much less dramatic, yet had a more severe
influence on their lives. To be honest, in the early days of my ministry, I had no compassion for these people. In my smug self-righteousness, I thought, Get real. You haven’t been through anything compared to me. What I offered as help for those people was probably not very helpful. Eventually I came to realize that it is not the intensity of the offense that determines the pain; rather, it is always the significance we attach that determines our pain. This being the case, one person could have an extremely intense experience with very few destructive results, while another could go through an apparently harmless experience and, because of the significance attached to it, have devastating results.
In reality, it was the subtle, manipulative rejection I experienced from my grandmother Hannah that had more lasting effects than the violence I endured from my stepfather. Covert rejection is usually more difficult to resolve than overt rejection. Covert
rejection has much more emotional challenge, even though it may not be as intense as open rejection. It is even more difficult to handle when it comes from people we love and trust. Being rejected by a person we hate has relatively no effect compared with being rejected by someone we love. The action is the same
but we attach significance because we pass judgment on why he or she did it.
End of Pastor James story.
Question for you: – How Would You React?
Many times someone does something as simple as not speak to us. Perhaps someone important to us fails to compliment us.
Or maybe we are not praised for an accomplishment, or a parent is overprotective. We think they’re angry, that they don’t love us,that they don’t think we’re pretty, or that we don’t know how to do anything. Any one of those simple events could become life-changing based on the significance we attach. For example, when a mother is overprotective, thinking she is showing love, the child usually judges it to mean, “She thinks I am stupid.”
Although that judgment may be incorrect, the results are demoralizing.
Imagine how the following event could become devastating. On Sunday morning, unknown to you, the pastor had to deal with a crisis situation-one that would make the difference between life and death, heaven or hell, or a saved marriage instead of a broken one. As he rushes into the church, where
the service has already begun, his mind is totally occupied with that crisis. You speak to him as he walks past. He seemingly ignores you.
Nothing negative actually happened; he simply did not speak to you. However, through your feelings of inadequacy, you begin to think about it and attach significance to it; you begin to measure it. You create a judgment. You ask yourself the “W” question:
“Why didn’t he speak to me?” Based on how you answer that question, your self-talk could continue like this: “I don’t think he likes me. As a matter of fact, I’m not sure he ever really did like me!” You attach significance to insignificant actions, and now, based on your judgment, it is measured back to you as pain and rejection. That event now has power in your life.
At this point, the matter could easily be resolved. You could approach the pastor, describe the event-without judgment-
and learn that his actions had nothing to do with you. Because he was lost in thought at the time, it would not have mattered who was standing there; he would not have noticed anyone who
spoke.
Or maybe you go home angry and frustrated (perhaps after
withholding your offering). Then it goes a step beyond that, as you begin to tell others what the pastor did to you. “I’ve been faithful and loyal to that church, and the pastor has never liked me! And on top of that, he’s rude to me!”
You are really hurting now. You have real mental pain and anguish, but it is not based on what the other person did to you; it is based on the judgment you passed. “With what measure ye
mete, it shall be measured to you again” (Matthew 7:2).
Two things begin to happen. First, the way in which you relate to people, as a whole, will be the way in which other people relate to you. Then there is a quantum leap from that to “the measure
that you mete.” This crosses over into the realm where it has nothing to do with how anybody else responds to you as much as how it affects you in your own heart because of the significance you attach.
Since we spend our lives judging people-relating to people based on our judgments of them-our lives are full of pain and dysfunction. We don’t have meaningful relationships or commu-
nication because we are always judging the real motives behind what people say or do. And it all is based on our judgment.
All it takes to break free from this destructive cycle is to refuse to judge, to refuse to attach significance to the actions of others. When another person’s actions affect you negatively, simply ask if there is a problem. Don’t assume, and don’t attach significance. When you can learn to observe rather than judge,
you can stop the pain before it becomes suffering.
That is the end of our presentation today on Episode 10 – The Power of Significance – Two True stories – Amina’s dying Boys and Pastor James’s Ruthless Stepfather and Resentful Grandmother .
Expanded Title –
Episode 10 – The Power of Significance – True story 1 – Amina’s inner vow and judgement concerning her brother prevented her from having male children until delivered + True story 2 – Pastor James’s judgement against step father Andrew and grandmother Hannah and key lessons for You.
I hope you learnt something that can be applied or you will like to discuss with us?
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