Parenting teenagers – Tips and Tricks

parenting teenagers - Tips and Tricks

parenting teenagers - Tips and Tricks

Aren’t we through with our parenting teenagers – Tips and Tricks duties by the time our kids are 20-somethings? The truth is, we are still mom and dad but the change is in the way we do our jobs. What we used to do as parents of teen-agers no longer works in the transition years of becoming young adults. Our communication, the way we relate and speak, the ways we show love, even how much we give must be adjusted.

Parenting Teenagers – Tips and Tricks

No longer can we give unsolicited advice and expect a positive response. No “Ok Johnny, go get your hair cut, buy a new suit, and then send in your resume to this company.” All those things may need to be done, but blatantly giving advice and instructing are no longer effective. Instead, we can gently ask questions like, “Son, what are you going to do next in your job search?” Or, “I think your idea to buy a new suit is a good one. If you’d like me to go along, let me know.” Suggesting and affirming are much more effective methods than a straight out “here’s how to do it.”
A key question to ask ourselves is: “Will these words or this action promote a healthier relationship with my adult child?During the teens, we helped our kids a lot. To guide them towards greater independence now, we can begin doing less and let them do more. Part of becoming a responsible citizen is learning to accept personal obligations and to respect others. How do we do this? By saying no more often.ereSome parents acknowledge saying “no” to their kids is tough. How do you all of a sudden start saying, “No, you can’t borrow the RV or the boat” or “no, I cannot baby-sit again this weekend?” .” If we are respectful, while honest and gentle, our children will understand more readily. “We’re planning to keep the RV as our retirement getaway and we are limiting its use so that it isn’t worn out in three years.” Or, “I’m sorry I can’t sit. We made plans to have friends visit for the weekend.”So yes, we are still active in our parenting role as our kids become adults. It’s our transition too, and if we do our job well, we can enjoy the mutual satisfaction of a friendship with our child for the rest of our lives.

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